Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (Symptoms and Treatment)

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) is a complex and debilitating disorder typified by extreme fatigue.

What is problematic with this condition is that it is not easy to cure. Sufferers of this condition cannot simply go to bed and wake up refreshed and mental and physical activity can make the condition worse. In extreme cases, the patient’s health deteriorates to the point where they are bedridden. This post briefly examines the main aspects of what CFS is about and what has been researched to help alleviate the condition.

Causation

The causes of CFS have yet to be determined and understood, but experts so far have suggested that CFS can be caused by:

  • Immune system diseases
  • Interaction with toxins
  • Tense situations
  • Genetic disorders
  • A combination of the above

Symptoms

CFS affects several body systems. Aside from its central symptom, which is how chronic fatigue syndrome derives its name, the disorder has eight official symptoms, which are:

  • Fatigue
  • Impaired concentration or memory
  • Profound exhaustion lasting more than 24 hours after mental or physical exercise
  • Unrefreshing sleep
  • Headache of a new type, severity or pattern
  • Joint pain that travels from one joint to another without redness or swelling
  • Unexplained muscle pain
  • Enlarged lymph nodes
  • Sore throat

Diagnosis

CFS has proven difficult for physicians to diagnose. There is no standard test to identify CFS, and the symptoms are similar to other illnesses. So, it is mainly a process of elimination, first ruling out other causes before identifying the condition is CFS.

However, once correctly identified, medical experts are able to help sufferers comprehend the scope of the illness and to assist in helping patients to cope with it.

Effects

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is a disorder that can be devastating, not only to the patient, but to loved ones around them. This is mainly down to the unpredictability of the illness. One day the sufferer has the energy, the next day they do not have enough to be active. It is imperative that CFS sufferers allow themselves rest time to help with the physical exhaustion and emotions experienced with the illness, as not every day will they be able to perform their daily functions.

Patients experience many difficulties, which include:

  • Worries about coping in day-to-day life
  • Alterations in relationships
  • Loss of livelihood, independence and financial security
  • Impaired memory
  • Unpredictable and changing symptoms
  • CFS suffers also experience a great deal of negativity from those around them who do not understand the illness, which adds more emotional strain in their lives. Because chronic fatigue syndrome is a debilitating disease, living with the disorder can be difficult. Daily lives are interrupted, and major lifestyle changes are necessary to adapt to limitations.

Treatment

There is no agreement amongst the medical fraternity on how to treat the condition as most doctors believe that there is no cure for the condition. It is just a question on how to manage the symptoms for each individual sufferer. This has led to much debate and controversary on the nest form of treatment, but the main approaches are holistic, and currently are:

  • Prescription medications
  • Lifestyle changes
  • Diet
  • Nutritional supplements
  • Graded exercise therapy
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Other alternative/complementary treatments

Prescriptions and Medications

There is no definitive drug or prescription type for CFS and depends upon the severity of the condition and the symptoms. Drugs are normally prescribed for:

Depression-Antidepressants. Studies have shown that antidepressants in low doses does help mood, relieve pain and improve sleep.

Insomnia- Prescription sleep aids may also be prescribed to help individuals improve their sleep.

Other drugs that may be prescribed include antiviral drugs, ADD/ADHD medications and anti-anxiety drugs.

Lifestyle Changes

Struggling with CFS normally means that the patient will have to make some life style changes to their everyday life. This may involve changing the pace of their work routine to help lower stress levels, introduce moderate exercise, change their diet and try to improve their sleeping habits.

Diet

Experts believe that diet is a major consideration for alleviating CFS as inflammation appears to play a role in chronic fatigue. It is recommended that avoiding sugar, fried foods, and processed meat, helps to reduce the condition. It is suggested to replace these foods with fish and olive oil.

Nutritional Supplements

Once again, there is very little medical evidence to suggest that nutritional supplements assist with alleviating CFS and mixed results ranging from not working at all to very helpful in combatting CFS. Normally a doctor will recommend a nutritional supplement to address a deficiency and its related symptoms. Before starting a supplemental regime, it is always recommended that you consult with your doctor on such a course of action.

Therapy

Graded Exercise Therapy

A physical therapist can help determine the best exercises for the individual. Programs will start with low levels of exercising, increasing the intensity as the individual gradually builds strength and endurance. 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive behavioral therapy helps individuals to interpret their symptoms, which in turn helps the patient to shape their behavior in a way to better react to the symptoms.

Alternative Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Treatment

While the usefulness of alternative/complementary therapy may still be controversial in the scientific community, many patients experience tremendous benefits from these. Main ones include:

  • Chiropractic and physical therapy
  • Hypnotherapy and biofeedback
  • Massage, Reiki, Rolfing, and other bodywork
  • Acupuncture

Emotional support and counseling are also recommended for individuals with CFS, and most report that group sessions are very therapeutic.

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Research:

NHS-https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chronic-fatigue-syndrome-cfs/

Wikipedia-https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chronic_fatigue_syndrome

What Cats Should Not Eat

By Guest Writer
Brad The Cat

Hi. Brad the Cat here. I love Tuna, blowflies and anything that is expensive.

Inzspire allows me to make videos on its YouTube Channel (see link below) but today I am writing this post to get something off my chest. Now I mentioned I like Tuna, but I really should not eat it as it is bad for me in large quantities and that is what I want to talk to you about today. Things that cats should not eat or consume. Some of these will surprise you!

Alcohol

Well it surprised me! I had a drink at new year but never again! and wow did it give me a headache!

Actually, you should not give your cat (or dog), alcohol as it is toxic to us and can cause brain damage, diarrhea, depression, lack of coordination, trouble breathing, coma, seizures, vomiting, liver damage or even death. Not nice!

Antifreeze (ethylene glycol)

Antifreeze is found in car radiators and some screen washes.

Some of us love this because it has a sweet taste and, as we have highly developed senses, we can easily detect the strong scent coming from the antifreeze, especially from its main ingredient, ethylene glycol.

But it is toxic to us and even a small amount can cause serious damage to our kidneys or liver. Some cats will not show symptoms following its consumption but most will urinate excessively, vomit, lose their appetite and co-ordination.

Chocolate

Now I love chocolate but I am not allowed it because of something called Theobromine.

Theobromine is an alkaloid chemical primarily found in the cocoa plant, and is used in making cocoa and chocolate. You may think that giving chocolate is a treat but it is also poisonous to cats (and dogs).  You see, unlike humans, we cannot breakdown chocolate in our metabolism. Giving even a small amount to your pet can result in kidney failure or seizures. Yuk!

Grapes

The toxicity effects of grapes and raisins to cats is still unsubstantiated.

But experts feel that it can cause kidney failure and are considered more dangerous to felines than chocolate. What is strange is that not every cat will show signs of kidney failure but it is recommended that you avoid giving grapes or raisins to your cat for a treat.

Lilies

I love grass when I am outside, (don’t we all!) but I have noticed that my friend Simon has recently started eating the flowers indoors and wow was he very ill! Simon munched on the lilies and had to be taken to the vets.

Apparently, the orange pollen is very toxic and once again can cause kidney failure. So, if you like Lilies around the house, it probably best that you keep them out of reach of your cat and especially Simon if he visits!

Medicines

Never give pain reducing tablets to cats such as Paracetamol and Ibuprofen, as cats are highly sensitive to these drugs and these tablets are particularly nasty to a cat’s liver.

If ingested by a cat, the symptoms would be heavy breathing or panting and tell-tale signs are brown gums and tongue. If your cat is suffering with pain for whatever reason, you should always take your cat to the vet for expert advice.

Milk

Yep! The times I have seen movies where a cat is fed milk.

Most of us don’t even like it and it has no nutritional value to us. Sure, just born kittens will drink it from their mother but as a cat, all it will give is a nasty stomach ache. Now water, that is very good and always welcome.

Onions

This is definitely a ‘no no’ in any shape or form, whether it is raw, cooked, dehydrated or powdered. Onions for some reason break down our red blood cells and can lead to anemia.

Watch out as onions can be found in baby foods and whilst this is ok for babies, do not give it to cats.

Raw Meat, Fish and Eggs

Who would of thought that raw fish is bad for me? Raw meat, raw fish, and raw eggs, can contain bacteria that cause food poisoning.

There is an enzyme known as thiamine that is crucial to Vitamin B in cats, which raw fish for example destroys this enzyme. Loss of thiamine in a cat is devasting as it can lead to convulsions, neurological problems and even cause your cat to go into a coma.

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Now that I have given you the lowdown, my job is done, and I’m off to munch on my cat food and then to a well deserved sleep. This is Brad the Cat signing off and until the next time.

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Covid-19 (March 2021) News

Are we now on the home straight in our race to combat the Coronavirus? Certainly, with the coming of various vaccines, we appear to be winning but everyday there is new information coming out relating to this pandemic. Inzspire has searched for the latest information on the virus and has provided some news bites in this post. Here are 5 items of recent news that you may have missed:

#1 WuHan origin theories rejected

Experts originally thought that the origin of the coronavirus emanated from a food market in WuHan, China, prompting the World Health Organisation (WHO) to spend 4 weeks there with site visits to the Huanan seafood market and a laboratory.

The investigation concluded that whilst the virus was first detected at the market, it was not the source of origin. At the same time the investigators have also ruled out the WuHan Institute of Virology laboratory as a potential source.

#2 Frozen food theory

One of China’s news outlets has suggested that the virus may have come through imported frozen food and packaging.

During the WHO visit to WuHan, they took the theory that the pandemic made a jump to humans via frozen food very seriously as they noticed large quantities of frozen animals being sold at the market.

At a press conference later, the lead investigator, Peter Ben Embarek, confirmed that whilst the virus can withstand extremely cold temperatures, they were unsure whether the virus could transfer to humans. It is for this reason that, so far, this theory has not gained any momentum with the medical fraternity.

A summary report of the findings from their visit to China is due and the full report will be published later in the year and then, maybe, we will all know a little better as to how, where and why this pandemic started.

#3 Side effects show that the vaccine is working?

The immune system is a sophisticated system of cells and proteins that defend the body against infectious attacks.

What is remarkable about the immune system is its ability to remember every germ (microbe) it has ever defeated and so if it ever enters the body again, it has the capability of beating it again.

When a Covid vaccine enters the body, the immune system ‘kicks into action’ to search for the virus but this can take up to two weeks for the immunity process to start working. Once it is aware of the virus, it starts creating anti-bodies to seek out and destroy the virus.

However, it has been now established in the UK, that there is a 10% chance that taking the jab you will have what is known as side effects, such as feeling run down with flu like symptoms which may last a few days.

This has caused certain members in the medical fraternity to have concerns that some people may decide not to take the vaccine leaving them in some danger to infection thus infecting others. The response has been to make it known that side effects show that the vaccine is working and that is a good thing.

#4 Astronauts conducting experiments to fight Covid

Boeing and the University of Queensland have developed an ‘antimicrobial surface coating’ that when placed on objects can fight off the threat of bacteria and viruses.

Its application was designed to prevent damage to spacecraft delicate systems from bacteria and viruses.

The coating has been modified so that experiments could be conducted by astronauts aboard the International Space Station (ISS) to see its effects on battling Coronavirus. Astronauts are transferring microbes from human skin to work surfaces and objects and studying the effects.

The idea is that if this works them the coating can be applied to public facilities, transport including commercial airlines and food preparation services.  

 #5 The Birth of Babies during a Pandemic

The way that women are giving birth has been greatly affected, especially with the maternity services, due to the fear of contracting Covid.

Whilst pregnant women do not appear to be more susceptible to the consequences of coronavirus than the general population, the move to caution has prevailed. There have been notable increase in women feeling that they are “going it alone” when dealing with their pregnancy.

Such changes that have occurred are:

  • Reductions in women attending maternity units in early stages of labour
  • Chronic levels of understaffing
  • Reduced regular personal contact with midwives
  • Reduction in partners present at birth
  • Limits on visitors to maternity wards

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What did you dream about?

Dreams a series of thoughts, visions, or feelings that happen during sleep. : an idea or vision that is created in your imagination and that is not real. : something that you have wanted very much to do, be, or have for a long time”. Google

Sleeping takes up about one third of our lifespan and dreaming is an important integral part of this process. Everybody dreams but most people cannot remember them with any clarity as to what they were dreaming about-well most of the time.

We create them when we are asleep but why we dream still remains a mystery. As you are more than aware, not all dreams are the same. When we sleep, our brain increases activity and creates images which can be happy, sad, terrifying or downright confusing. Inzspire looks at this function that takes up a vast part of our lives.

The Purpose of dreams?

We have accepted that dreaming forms part of healthy sleep. We also do not have a definitive answer as to why we dream or as to its exact purpose in our lives. Dreams mainly occur during the Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep stage, early in the sleep process and initially for a few minutes. Whilst this explanation was the long-standing school of thought, it is now well established that dreaming can occur in any sleep stage as dreaming does returns later in the sleep process for as long as 30 minutes which means that some dreams may last just as long.

When you are awake, your brain is active and, in most cases, your thoughts form a logical process. Your brain is still active when you go to sleep, but your dreams do not form a logical process and dream researchers believe this is because the emotional side of your brain is responsible for activating the dream.

Scientific studies have so far concluded that the dream function is to unravel the events that occurred in the day and are crucial to the stability of our mental and emotional health. This makes sense as we all know the feeling we have when we do not get a good night’s sleep. What we do know is that the dreamer:

  • has reduced control over the dream function
  • cannot control its content
  • can only partially recall what the dream was about
  • in some cases, cannot remember the dream at all

Nightmares

Researchers believe that bad dreams or (nightmares), whilst they are unpleasant are helpful to our survival during our times where we experience feelings of uncertainty, doubt and change. They can also occur when a person is suffering from stress or some form of trauma, ill, or on medication or drugs.

Unfortunately, nightmares are here to stay as they form some meaningful function in our sleep routine for our survival instincts. If they had no purpose, experts believe that evolution would have done away with them a long time ago. If you have consistent nightmares, then it is best to consult with your medical practitioner.

Dreams are easy to forget

Experts are unsure as why we have difficulty in recalling dreams. Our brain is full of electrical signals and chemical signatures that are responsible for various functions in our everyday lives. The signal and signature that occurs when we dream probably disappear when we wake up, hence the reason we do not remember most of our dreams.

Some believe that we forget dreams to allow us to retain memory of real events. However, we may have not forgotten the dream, it maybe that it is stored in the deep recesses of our subconscious only to resurface when something triggers it. Many people have confirmed that they remember dreams much later because of some event that has stimulated dream recall.

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Recurring dreams

This is where you experience the same or similar dream over and over. This normally means that you have something in your life you have not resolved, or have not experienced closure.

This maybe that someone has experienced a trauma and has not been able to get over it yet or are trying to deal with it. Researchers believe that recurring dreams are a way that our mind tells us to deal with a problem.

Lucid dreams

This is where the dreamer is aware that they are dreaming and to some extent, may have control over the dream. Studies have concluded that lucid dreams normally occur in the middle of a dream and its then that the dreamer is aware that they are dreaming.

Lucid dreaming normally occurs between REM sleep and being awake. What is interesting is that that some people have confirmed that they have, over time, been able to influence and increase their ability to control their dreams.

Dream Recall

Dream generally are very difficult to recall but interruptions during a dream or REM sleep, such as a load noise or an alarm clock, seem to be the catalysts to remembering dreams as you wake up. Researchers and dream enthusiasts believe that dream recall helps you understand your subconscious mind more, help your decision making, assist stress management and simply be a source of inspiration.

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The power of morning meditation

Why meditate?

The question should be why not meditate? You don’t have to be an expert at sitting down somewhere quietly and reflect on the order of the day or calmly assess where you are at this point in time. Research on the subject has concluded that it can calm the mind, improve you mentally, emotionally, physically and can promote a good night’s sleep.

What happens when you meditate?

When you meditate, it allows the body to produce endorphins which make you feel better and positive about yourself both emotionally and physically.

Why in the morning?

There is no scientifically proven correct and definitive time of the day to meditate but many experts believe that the best time of the day is to meditate in the morning. This certainly can benefit your mind in setting up the foundations of starting the day on a positive note before you take on whatever occurs during the day. So here are some benefits of morning meditation.

It will allow you to start the day stress-free

What you don’t want to happen in the morning is to start your day stressed out. So, leave that first action of waking up and looking at your phone or turning on the tv or radio. Put the meditation on your list as a priority.

If you immediately start thinking about the trials of the day as you wake up, you are not giving yourself a proper chance on focussing or organising the day in a proper manner. A quite meditation session, before breakfast, will calm you by slowing your heart rate and breathing rate down, thus reducing the chances of any stress or anxiety feelings at the start of the day.

The longer the time you take to meditate in the morning the better, but if you are starting out, or really are very busy, try 5 minutes to start and build it up.

For more experienced exponents, 10 minutes is ok but if you can possibly manage the time, you are better off with a 30-minute session. It is recommended to practice meditation before having your first meal of the day. But if you cannot wait, have something to eat but allow two hours to pass before you start meditating.

It helps you to focus

Studies in Meditation, mindfulness and cognitive flexibility found that participants who meditated had a higher success rate and greater ability to focus their attention by blocking out distractions than the group that did not meditate.

It is all about effective concentration and being less distracted. Meditation, if applied correctly, will help you train your mind in placing your attention on something for long periods of time. Not only that, it can also train your mind to better identify what are distractions and remove them so that you can return to the important points you need to focus on.

Focusing on the start of the day and what lies before you, helps you gain momentum. You can calm a busy mind, declutter, and direct your attention to what is needed to be done. Whilst you cannot predict on all of the events coming your way on any given day, so you concentrate on events that you know or expect will happen. This will make you more proactive and less reactive to the days’ events.

It combats fatigue

Meditation releases endorphins in your body, thus turning off stress hormones and lowering cortisol levels associated with the flight stress response.

Therefore, it is generally believed that sitting down for a short space of time, doing nothing but meditation, allows you to become relaxed and stress free and in turn, powers up your body and thus boosts energy. You will feel more awake and alert.

Improves empathy

Morning meditation can have positive effects giving you a feeling of calm and well-being which can continue throughout the day. 

Some of the controlled experiments that have been conducted showed that subjects held the emotions of compassion and empathy towards others following these sessions.

The research, published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, disclosed that a meditation program called Cognitively-Based Compassion Training was able to improve people’s ability to read emotional expressions on others’ faces. The brain scans revealed that people who took the meditation courses also had increased brain activity in the regions linked with empathy.

Increases happiness

Many people rely upon external situations or conditions to provide them with stimulus to be happy.

If we can reduce the reliance on external circumstances ruling our happiness and replace this with our internal contentment than our feeling of self-worth increases. Meditation allows you to explore the personal resources of your mind and how you react to external conditions that affect your life.

As outlined above, with the help of meditation, you can increase your levels of feel-good chemicals, such as endorphins, that has the capacity to increase happiness levels and alter negative thoughts.

Whilst meditation may not solve your problems it will help you cope with what life throws at you and that has got to be good. Isn’t it? Let us know what you think in the comment section below.

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India the Mysterious Land of Diversity

India is part of the continent of Asia and is surrounded by water on three sides forming a peninsula. To the north, it holds the highest mountain range, the Himalayas, to the south east it is bordered by the Bay of Bengal, and the southwest it is bordered by the Arabian Sea.

India remains one of the most ethnically diverse countries in the world. The vast country holds differences in geography, climate, culture, language and ethnicity, and holds the reputation as the largest democracy on Earth and is the centre of trade in Southeast Asia. There are some amazing places to visit and here are 10 of them:

#1 Agra

Agra is a major industrial centre known for its leather goods, cut stone, and handwoven carpets and, of course, tourism is a major factor in the city’s economy.

Agra is one of the most easily identifiable cities in the world; due to it being home to the iconic Taj Mahal, a mausoleum made of white marble built in the 17th century by the emperor, Shah Jahan for his beloved wife Mumtaz Mahal, who died in childbirth.

The city holds the renowned Dr. B.R. Ambedkar University (formerly Agra University), founded in 1927. Many religious and cultural festivals are held in Agra most notably, Krishna Janmashtami, which is an annual hindhu festival which celebrates the birthday of Lord Krishna. There is also an annual 10-day arts, crafts, and music carnival, usually in February. This is called Taj Mahotsav, which is held in Shilpagram, a village close to the Taj Mahal.

Apart from the Taj Mahal, another stand-out building is the Agra Fort which was the main residence of the emperors of the Mughal Dynasty and is now a World Heritage Site.

This includes a mosque of white marble (Pearl Mosque) and the palace Jahangiri Mahal.

#2 Amritsar

Amritsar is situated in the north western state of the Punjab and is the most important holy city for the Sikh religion.

Here lies the visually breath-taking iconic building, the Golden Temple, which was built over 400 years ago, entirely encased in gold and is the major attraction of the city.

Every Sikh tries to make at least one pilgrimage here during their lifetime. All visitors must remove their shoes and wash their feet by walking through pools before entering the temple. Everyone that enters the temple must remove their shoes and cover their heads, normally with scarves which are provided at a small price, if the individual does not have one.

The other attraction in the city is the Bazaar Ram Bagh area where you’ll see grocery shops selling food grains, cooking oils, cloth and jewelry markets and other local products.

#3 Delhi

New Delhi is the national capital on the west bank of the Yamuna River, located in the north-central part of India.

Delhi consists of 11 districts including Old Delhi and New Delhi forming a massive metropolitan city, considered to be one of the oldest cities in the world.

One of the outstanding sights in Delhi is the Red Fort, made from sandstone and built in the 17th century which is accessible through the Lahore Gate.

Another significant place to visit is Humayun’s Tomb built in 1570, which was the first garden-tomb on the Indian subcontinent. It’s design eventually inspired the construction of the Taj Mahal.

Apart from the many palaces that are scattered all over the city, there a many museums and religious buildings to visit.

#4 Ellora and Ajanta

There are sacred sites in the state of Maharashtra, central India, known as the Ellora and Ajanta caves. Here you will find complex shrines and temples dedicated to Buddhism, Jainism and Hinduism religions.

Ellora is a UNESCO World Heritage site with over 34 monasteries and temples dating from 600 to 1000 AD spread over a distance of 1.2 miles (2 km). What is amazing about them is that they were cut from basaltic cliffs and have intricate facades and interior walls.

What is also most extraordinary from an already incredible site, is Cave 16, Kailasanatha, as it was excavated downwards, thus exposing it to sunlight. Construction of the temple occurred in the 8th century during the reign of Krishna I, where it is estimated that anything from 150,000 to 200,000 tons of solid rock were removed.

Another World Heritage site is Ajanta, which comprises of 29 caves covering Buddhist architecture, cave paintings and sculpture. The caves are situated in Ajanta village, north-central Maharashtra state, western India.

The site is older than Ellora, as the site was first built in the 2nd and 1st centuries BC but more caves were added in the 5th and 6th centuries AD. Apart from being a tourist attraction, the caves are used by Buddhist monks for study and meditation.

#5 Goa

Popular for its sandy beaches, markets, nightlife and places of worship, Goa lies on the western coast of India, which was a former colony of Portugal.

Goa has a cultural mix ranging from Christian and Hindu celebrations, to partying and art festivals. The most popular beach is Candolim Breach and holiday village with its restaurants and nightclubs.

The most notable attraction apart from the beach is the Aguada Fort built by the Portuguese in 1912 to ward off the Dutch and the Maratha invaders.

Dudhsagar Falls, a four-tiered waterfall located on the Mandovi River with its flora and fauna in abundance. This is a popular spot for photographers to capture the impressive waterfall which form a part of the Bhagwan Mahaveer Sanctuary and Mollem National Park.

If you are interested in places of worship, try visiting the Bom Jesus Basilica, built in 1605 which is the final resting place of St. Francis Xavier, one of the original founding companions of the Society of Jesus. He is famed for his missionary accomplishments to the catholic church particularly in India, Southeast Asia and Japan.

#6 Kerala

One of the top places to visit in India is considered to be Kerala, a place of great natural beauty situated in the southwestern state of India.

National Geographic named it one of the ten paradise locations in the world. It is a tropical paradise known for its palm trees, idyllic backwaters, stylish houseboats, temple festivals, beaches and tea, coffee and spice plantations.

The heart of Kerala is found in the city of Kochi, a fishing port which was established in 1341 when a flood shaped out the harbour opening it to European, Arab and Chinese merchants. Not only a thriving fishing industry, Kochi is also a richly diverse city whereby you can visit a fort, a palace, a temple and even a Jewish synagogue in one day if you so desired.

Another landmark to visit is Periyar National Park, wildlife sanctuary also known as the Periyar Tiger Reserve, in the town of Thekkady. The park boasts a vast array of wildlife including tigers, elephants, wild pigs, dear and 4 species of primates and snakes, amongst others.

#7 Ladakh

To the north of India lies Ladakh in the Himalayas, a mountainous area within the Kashmir region. Here you will find breath taking scenery, clear skies, mountains, adventure activities, a nomadic population, Buddhist Monasteries and festivals.

It is one of the remotest areas in india and travelers will normally visit the capital town of Leh which is home to the 16th century Shey palace and monastery once ruled over by the King of Lakakh.

Here Buddhism is very strong and the majority of its peoples are Tibetan Buddhists and the rest are mostly Shia Muslims. The town heavily relies upon trade but also is heavily involved in agriculture and fruit growing.

The current Shey Monastery was built in 1655 and known for its two annual festivals known as Shey Doo Lhoo (sowing season) and Shey Rupla (harvesting season). Both the festivals are the major attractions.

However, the main attraction is the 12m tall statue of Sakyamuni Buddha that covers three storeys of the building.

#8 Mysore

Mysore is situated at the southern point of India, and is noted for its heritage buildings, structures, and festivals where travellers flock to from all over globe.

Mysore is most noted for its magnificent Mysore Palace which is the epitome of opulence as built and renovated over five centuries. it is constructed from granite with domes made of deep pink coloured marbles, carved doors made of rosewood and ceilings of ivory.

Mysore is very busy for 10 days in October each year due to the Dasara celebrations marking the triumph of Rama, an avatar of Vishnu, over the 10-headed demon king Ravana, who abducted Rama’s wife, Sita.

#9 Udaipur

Udaipur is a city set around a series of lakes and located in the western state of Rajasthan. It is famed for its luxurious royal palaces and artificial lakes making it a beautiful place to visit. It is a city of intricate architecture, palaces, bazaars, courtyards and gardens.

The lavish City Palace built on the island of Lake Pichola is a standout place to visit, consisting of Medieval, European and Chinese Architecture built in granite and marble. It is a complex of palaces and whilst various rulers added to the structure all maintained a resemblance of each other. The City Palace is also home to the famous peacock mosaics.

One of the ‘must do’ things to do whilst you are there is to enjoy the sunset cruise on Lake Pichola. Here you can take in ‘a snapshot of life’ watching local fisherman pull fish from their nets, women washing their clothes on the banks, whilst children play and swim around the lake. 

#10 Varanasi

Varanasi is located in the north on the banks of the River Ganges and is reputed to be one of the oldest living cities in the world dating back some 3,000 years.

To the Hindus, Varanasi is a sacred city and the main pilgrimage destination whereby one can cleanse their soul from sin by bathing in the River Ganges. Here is the most famous site of the city, namely the ghats, which are a series of embankment steps leading down to the river.

Named the ‘City of Temples, Varanasi boasts thousands of temples scattered all over the city with the most notable being Kashi Vishwanath Mandir, the Temple of Shiva.  

One of the most prominent trades in Varanasi is its silk weaving which is famous throughout India for its production of very fine silk and Banarasi saris.

Covid-19 (February 2021) News

It looks like we are in for a long haul with Covid-19 and everyday there is new information coming out relating to this pandemic. Inzspire has searched for the latest information on the virus and here are 5 items of recent news for February 2021.

#1 Is there a cure for Covid-19?

Well, maybe. Israel may have found something which could be another breakthrough in this rapidly ever-changing pandemic. A medication known as EXO-CD24 has been developed by researchers as a cure for certain types of cancer.

Ichilov Hospital in Tel Aviv have recently tested the drug out on some Covid patients, and the results have been startling. They administered EXO-CD24 to 30 moderately to seriously ill patients suffering with the virus which has led to 29 of them showing such an improvement that they were allowed to be released within 3 to 5 days. The other patient took a few days longer to be allowed to leave.

The drug is relatively inexpensive to produce and has to be administered once a day over a period of 5 days. Trials continue.

#2 Why do you need a second shot of the vaccine?

When the body is injected with a vaccine, 2 types of white blood cells are activated in your body known as the B cell and the T cell.

The B cell’s function in the circulatory system is to create antibodies, the Y-shaped proteins that attach to the body’s foreign invaders and signal the immune system to get to work.

The T cell’s job is to identify a particular invader (or pathogen) in the body such as the coronavirus and kill it. The T cell can roam around your body for years until it finds the invader and there are not many of them.

The problem is a B cell’s life span is short lived and so if you do not receive a second ‘booster’ shot, the B cell will rapidly decline within a few weeks. The second vaccine ‘shot’ is needed as a ‘booster’ to help the B cells to rapidly divide, allowing it to focus and attack the invader with some force which lets the body build strong immunity. The T cells also quickly divide and grow in numbers to protect people from, in this example, contracting severe Covid.

#3 Vaccines and travel

The general view is that the vaccines will mean that eventually travelling will return to normal. But only when the vast majority of the world’s population develop ‘herd immunity’, so that respective governments lift travel restrictions.

In addition, it is best that people do not travel until they received the second ‘shot’ for the reasons outlined in #2.

The good news is that, based upon current results, the vaccines in circulation, are very effective and better than predicted in stopping people getting sick.  So far though, we are still unsure if vaccinated people reduce the risk of transmitting the disease. The fact is that the medical fraternity still has a long way to go in fully understanding the virus and its mutations.

In order to travel abroad, travellers already need to have proof of vaccination in some form of documentation and several ‘pass’ documents are being marketed. But already ‘fake’ Covid test documents have been discovered. This has led to the international community agreeing to what is known as the ‘CommonPass’. This process was developed by the World Economic Forum and the nonprofit Common Project which is a digital health passport which is internationally accepted as a safe and secure way to prove that an individual is safe to travel.

#4 The Pandemic and Dating

Based upon the current pandemic crisis, you would think that dating is out of fashion. Far from it as people are finding ways to meet people and link up. Since March 2020, dating apps have exploded into action and have noted the changes in people’s attitude.

Meeting in person is obviously difficult in times of lockdown but it has not deterred people searching or dating online virtually. Video apps have increased in popularity and are used constantly from hearing someone’s voice to creating positive first impressions. The chemistry is still their via video chatting and some people are even falling in love.

According to the dating agency, OkCupid, search terms as kindness, caring, compassionate and empathetic have increased on their profiles as requirements when searching for a partner.

Dating agencies seem to concur that although the pandemic has halted the physical contact somewhat, it has been reported that video calls have increased in length in a single session whereas they used to stretch out many months in the past.  Due to length of the pandemic so far and the restrictions in movement, the trend appears to show that people are now looking for a more serious relationships than the casual one-night stand.

#5 How concerned should we be with the South African strain?

So far experts feel that whilst the South African strain may enable the coronavirus to spread faster from person to person, resulting in more people getting very sick, overall, there is no evidence so far to suggest that this new version of the virus will cause severe disease or death. 

A spokesperson for Oxford-AstraZeneca’s has confirmed that their vaccine offers “minimal protection” against mild disease from the South Africa variant, but they maintain that it is still effective for severe cases.

Currently the new variant is causing 90% of the new cases in South Africa, and concerns have been raised that the existing vaccine will not be effective. South African has currently placed the roll-out of the Oxford-AstraZeneca vaccine on hold. This has prompted Oxford-AstraZeneca to currently work on a ‘booster’ which they feel will be more effective and is anticipated to be rolled out later in the year.

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Is there an art to being lucky?

THE ART OF CREATIVE LUCK 

Have you ever considered that a friend you know well is really lucky? Or maybe it was someone that has been pointed out to you with the words, they “are always lucky” or “I don’t know how they do it!” or “That person always appears to be there at the right place and at the right time”, as if they have done something wrong being successful.

Well apart from winning the lottery or avoiding a passing car by centimetres, most people who appear lucky, probably have that skill set of seeing an opportunity out of a random event and turning it into something positive as it arrives. That is not being lucky that is an art. So, let’s call this the “art of being lucky”. Actually, It should be your mindset of life.

“I’m a great believer in luck. I’ve found that the harder I work, the more I have of it.”  Thomas Jefferson

Luck has less to do with what happens to you in any given situation but more on how you think and act at the crucial time. If cultivated, this process can change a person’s life for the better whether at home or at work. Here are 5 steps you can take to help you become one of the so called “lucky ones”.

#1 Changing your mindset-if your mind is closed, then nothing good can enter

If you think you are constantly unlucky and compare yourself to others that are unfortunate, then you need to change your mindset. You firstly need to change your perception of what luck is.

You need to move away from thinking that luck is merely a random event and consider it as the result of your hard work culminating in an opportunity coming along that you can take up. In other words, the art of being lucky is that you have paved the way for an opportune event to have occurred and now it is yours for the taking.

An example of this is when you have studied for something, passed the exam and then a job opportunity immediately falls into your lap just when you needed it. Someone may say “you were lucky to get that job”, but you know better. You see, this is an example of when you maximised a chance opportunity and shifted the balance into your favour. If you had not passed the exam, the job opportunity may have come your way but you could not have taken it up as you were unqualified.

If your mind is closed, then nothing good can enter. Stop feeling that what happens in life are out of your control. In order to give yourself the best chance of success, you need to think, feel and practise the art of being lucky, by creating chance opportunities and, above all else, stop thinking that you are always the unlucky one. Easier said than done, I can hear you say. Well developing the open mind is the first step. Think life is always bringing me opportunities. Think that things will turn out for the better. Expect good luck-pure optimism is a winner. The next step is:

#2 Keep your Eyes Wide Open and an Open Mind

Before you start on this road, you need a period of reflection. What do you want? In order to attain what you want; you have to firstly know what it is you are after.

I know that it sounds simple and it is. What do you want? A new job? More money? A new relationship? The process of achieving it remains the same in whatever objective or goal you set.

You keep your eyes wide open and wait for the opportunity to arise. Remember, you are not out to take advantage of someone, you are looking for opportunities but for the right reasons. It is not all about taking, it may also be about giving. Get into the habit of opening doors for other people. Genuinely provide encouragement and always listen.

Opportunities arrive every day in your life even when it is you that is giving-you just need to see them as that, opportunities. Also do not be afraid to ask. You may consider luck being down to the right person saying yes to your question. But no-one can say ‘yes’ to you until you ask the question. Want the job? Want the sale? Ask for it. Don’t be afraid to ask.

True luck is down to things outside our control and is rare. What we can control is how we respond to circumstances and also how often we put ourselves into situations that can prove beneficial to us. And don’t believe that it was lucky if you get it despite what anyone says. It was because you were bold enough to ask. Be brave!

#3 Networking and Encounters

Obviously, your loved ones and your close friends are your strongest ties and will mean the most to you and are extremely important. But do not discount the casual acquaintance as a ‘weak tie’ or unworthy of your attention.

One of the reasons for this is that the person you are not familiar with, probably operates in a totally different social circle and has a wealth of untapped experience and connections you have not considered before. Doors open and the possibilities are endless. Information and luck spreads. The key here is to share information, give as well as receive.

Meet up with likewise people who have the same interest or the same goals. Do not worry about asking questions you may think are stupid. Most people like talking about themselves and their experiences, so you will benefit from it. Establish networks. Join social networks such as Facebook. Share your ideas. Ask for their advice. The more people you meet increases your chances of success, whether it is on the internet or in person. You will find joining networks propel you into another world that you may not have considered before.

#4 Avoid Negativity

Excited about this new thought process? Watch out! Not everyone is going to share your enthusiasm and you can bet that they will throw in some negative views for good measure. This is where you respectfully disagree with them, point out it is your view and ignore their statements completely.

There are some among us that thrive on disinformation, negative thoughts and manipulation and they cannot enjoy other people’s positive views and success. In their mind, you have ‘all the luck’ and they may resent you for it. You have better things to do like getting on with being positive and being successful.

Also, negative thoughts are not always within the domain of other people, it may be with you. Avoid your own negative thoughts and feelings as they no longer have a place in the ‘new you’. If you experience bad luck, try and find some element in the event that was positive. If not, try not to dwell on the bad event for too long. You have to move on.

It is natural to feel cautious but avoid thinking that there is evil and wrongdoing everywhere. If you are honest to yourself, honest with others, work hard to get what you want and try to help others, you are following the right path. And there are many people like you doing the same thing. You have just got to meet up with them. The joining of like-minded people can have remarkable effects on the outcome.

#5 Don’t Give Up

This is going to be the hardest part. The art of being lucky is not gained instantly like turning a switch. You also need to understand that It is important to fail because we all learn from our mistakes. Look at it as a chance to reset and start again.

Try getting yourself in the mindset that the art of being lucky is an ongoing process and, most importantly, do not be afraid to fail as you will not always succeed, mostly you will, but not every time.

It will take time to master this process and get all the elements right. You will probably experience a few ‘false dawns’ on the way. As already explained, there is no magic switch in the ‘art of being lucky’ and results may not always be instant. But they will come, that is inevitable as long as you stick with it and the best part of all is that you will be aware when it occurs. You will realise that if you had not taken that action then that good thing would not have happened!

So, you see, that “lucky” person may not have been lucky after all, they just appeared to be, but in reality, they followed the above steps. What do you think? Do you agree? We would love to hear from you in the comments section below.

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What are we cloning now?

In July 1996, the world was greeted with Dolly the sheep, the first mammal to be cloned from an adult cell. The rest, as they say, is history.

The world of cloning has come a long way since Dolly, but whilst the ethical issues still remain, this process of cloning and its implications become complicated. So, what is the world of cloning like now? Here are some areas where cloning is no longer science fiction but science fact. It may surprise you.

Endangered animals

The financial viability of cloning endangered species is under debate and therefore not widespread as you may imagine.

You see you could spend billions on cloning endangered animals but that does not mean that they will survive. Where do you put them? Probably in a zoo as the reason they are becoming extinct in the first place is because their natural habitat is at threat or they have been hunted down.  So, putting them straight back where they came from is a non-starter. Yes, some environments considered safe have allowed re-introduced animals to the wild, but at the moment it is down to the question ‘is it worth it?’.

There are also compassionate grounds to deal with as cloned animals suffer miscarriages, have birth defects, develop serious illnesses, and die prematurely. Currently it is not about saving individual endangered species but more about conserving areas of the planet in order to preserve habitats that are crucial for the preservation of the species at risk of extinction.

However, cloning of endangered species has happened. Groups that have successfully been cloned include cattle, pigs, sheep, and goats. Scientists have also cloned mice, rats, rabbits, cats, mules, horses and dogs.

Extinct animals

“De-extinction (also known as resurrection biology, or species revivalism) is the process of generating an organism that is either an extinct species or resembles an extinct species”. Wikipedia

Most people have seen the 1993 movie “Jurassic Park,” but that was the thoughts of fiction as it is not currently possible to bring a dinosaur back to life because the DNA is too old. However, that may not be the case in the future.

There are some more animals of the last Ice Age that could be restored through cloning because their DNA were preserved in permafrost and can still be extracted. These animals include the Woolly Mammoth and Sabre Toothed Cats. (For a list of “14 Extinct Animals That Could Be Resurrected” see Bonus below at the end of this post.

The argument for de-extinction is that supporters feel that we, as the human race, should be obliged to bring these animals back, as we are directly responsible for them being extinct in the first place. De-extinction supporters have ‘dubbed’ some extinct animals as ‘keystone’ species. A keystone species is an organism that helps define an entire ecosystem, and without them, the eco system of our planet would be dramatically different to what it is now. Examples of living keystone species are the Beaver, the Shark and the African Elephant. They all play a critical role in maintaining ecosystems.

However, there are people who oppose such an idea as they feel that not only would it be extremely expensive to bringing back extinct species but it would also cause a biodiversity loss. The definition of Biodiversity loss describes the decline in the number, genetic variability, and variety of species, and the biological communities in a given area. Biodiversity underpins the health of the planet and has a direct impact on all our lives.

Pets

Pets form an important addition to households all over the world and most people agree and accept that a pet is a member of the family. It is always a heart wrenching experience when they pass on, but what happens if the thought of cloning them comes into the equation?

There is a growing industry for cloning pets but which is still in its infancy. Contrary to the movies, animals so far cannot be cloned from blood, DNA, hair, or teeth. It is only possible with live tissue.  Cloning a pet undergoes the following procedures and its implications are not without controversy:

  • Extract DNA from the pet to be cloned through a biopsy of tissue. The tissue is then cryogenically preserved using temperatures below 130 degrees C.
  • Designated ‘Surrogate’ animals to generate fertilized eggs.
  • The DNA is erased from the fertilized eggs and the pet’s preserved DNA is inserted.
  • The altered eggs are implanted back into the ‘Surrogate’ animal which may or may not get pregnant.

Whatever the animal, it is currently a particularly inefficient process and here are some unpleasant facts to consider before you want to consider cloning your beloved pet. For example, if someone wanted to clone their dog:

  • It would take many dog surrogates to achieve a single successful pregnancy.
  • A lot of cloned embryos would be required to create a single healthy puppy.
  • Many dogs die as cells in the culture dish or as embryos in the womb and a few puppies die.
  • The ‘Surrogate’ dogs undergo multiple pregnancies who basically have no say in the process.
  • Unneeded clones have an undetermined fate.
  • Getting a cloned copy does not mean that you will get an identical looking pet with the same personality.
  • There is also the potential of birth defects and possible illness.

Small wonder that there is an argument for going down to the local animal welfare shelter and adopt a new cat or dog.

Sniffer dogs at airports

As well as pets being cloned, working animals are being cloned and one working animal that is increasing its presence, is the airport sniffer dog.  For example, there are cloned sniffer dogs roaming South Korea’s Incheon Airport in Seoul searching for explosives or contraband luggage.

These animals have had some success. The pack of cloned Golden Labrador Retrievers, genetically identical, have been working at the airport for over 10 years and no-one would be the wiser that these canines are cloned.

The consensus is that cloned dogs are easier to train the arts of locating illegal imports and drugs than their naturally born co-workers. Indeed, the analysis shows that cloned dogs were constantly outperforming their counterparts. The costs of training the cloned dogs are markedly cheaper and minimises failures to hit the required standard to become a sniffer dog.

In 2019 it was announced the cloning of working dogs extended to the Chinese police hoping to cut training times and costs for China’s police dogs.

Food

A cloned animal is a genetic copy of its parent, so it is safe to say that is composition (milk and flesh) is the same as the DNA extracted that is used to create it. 

Livestock have been cloned for human consumption since 1998. Various authorities around the world have approved the use of meat and milk from cloned cattle, pigs, and goats and from the offspring of clones of any species traditionally used as food, following the usual safety standard checks. However, this is still in its infancy as cloned cattle are mainly used for breeding and then the offspring are used to feed the population. However, this is about to change.

China’s development of cloning livestock has been particularly active in this field mainly due to its demand for beef. It is anticipated that the nation of 1.4 billion people will soon be feasting on cloned cows and a Chinese genetics company is set to produce cattle on an industrial scale. This is Boyalife Genomics, a cloning facility in the coastal city of Tianjin who reputedly are to start producing 100,000 cloned cattle annually and them ramping up to a million a year.

The positive notion used by pro-cloning experts is that the cloning of livestock for food can lead to the end of world hunger. What do you think? I would love to hear your views on this controversial subject.

Sport

Cloning has entered into the world of sport, namely polo and potentially some horse competitions.

The polo player, Adolfo Cambiaso, the sport’s greatest player, made history when he rode out on a cloned horse in the Argentine Open Championship of 2016. In fact, during the tournament he rode on 6 cloned horses. He gathered a state of the art team of scientists who revolutionised the field of horse breeding as he went on to be the best player of all time in the world of Polo.

In 2003, the first ever clone of a champion racehorse was unveiled at a press conference in Italy. The horse named ‘Prometea’ was created by fusing the nucleus of a skin cell taken from the mother with an empty egg from another horse. The resulting embryo was returned to the mother’s womb after being cultured in the lab.

Others sports involved with cloning include dressage, showjumping, three-day-eventing, and carriage horse racing. There is also no official objection to date for cloned horses to complete in the next Olympic Games, although nothing has been announced as yet.

Humans

This is still in the world of science fiction and is the most controversial. Scientists in China have successfully cloned two monkeys but despite several scientific claims in South Korea, there is no scientific evidence of any country cloning a human being as the process is extremely difficult, more so than in other mammals.

It is true that we have been able to clone human embryos for several years now. However, the ethical implications of such a project to create a human being are immense as there are question marks on the cost, the number of embryos needed, the total of failed attempts that will occur, to the completed clone suffering untold health problems. The question about the possibility of cloning a human has changed from ‘could we?’ to ‘should we?’ What do you think? Leave a comment as we would love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

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Your relationship with your partner-is it worth keeping?

“The first way to know if your relationship is worth saving is that you are both committed to growth, individually and together.” Google

When considering your relationship, your partner should be the first person you trust or feel comfortable with. So why the doubt?

If there is uncertainty about your partner in your life? Being in a relationship demands sacrifices from both parties and the following may help when considering whether you are right or wrong about the relationship.

“I Only Have Eyes for You”

Ok, first of all we assume that the sex is ok, as if that is your only concern, this post may not be of any help to you.

We assume that there is nothing wrong in that department and you are not interested or do not want anyone else.

Look this one needs to be clarified before guilt creeps in. There is nothing wrong in giving a fleeting look at a man or woman that passes you by and who you thought were attractive. You cannot fight what is in every ones’ DNA and it is only natural. -Darwinesque perpetuation of the species and all that.

Of course, if you want try and take it up further, you have already answered the question but in an inverted way. You are not worth your partner’s time! Faithfulness and loyalty are the foundation of a stable relationship-without it your relationship is doomed. If you are failing in that area, you should walk away to stop inevitable heartbreak.

“A tingle in your stomach”

You feel a tingle in your stomach, sometimes known as ‘butterflies’ or you feel happiness when your partner enters the room.

The ‘butterflies’ thing normally happens at the start of a relationship which is a sign of excitement and expectation. It is a good sign. If you still get it after a long while then you are lucky. Feeling happiness being with your partner is a very good sign as long as they reciprocate the feelings.

Don’t worry too much if the ‘butterflies’ have ended, as long as you are happy with your partner. If you are both apart for some time, it is quite likely that the ‘butterflies’ will come back when your partner returns. What is certain is that if you are happy on their return, by virtue of just their presence, then that box it ticked ‘ok’.

“You are nice to have around”

In other words, he or she is your best friend and you prefer their company to others. Yes, you have friends and you really enjoy seeing them when you can but they too have their own lives to lead which suits you very well.

In the end, your partner is the one you want to be with regularly as you enjoy being with them more than without them and you hate the thought of being apart from them. You are confident that this is not insecurity on your part and, as you trust your partner, you just don’t want to be away from him or her for too long. It is a preference thing that you feel comfortable with.

A very good sign that you have something good going is when you say that whether you are out with your partner or at home; you have fun together.

“It’s good to talk”

Communication is one of the most important facets of keeping a good relationship going whether it is in business or with a personal relationship. So, if you are unsure where you stand in this relationship, now is the time to speak up.

The danger is that once you ‘get used to’ your partner, you stop communicating. If you suspect there is something wrong in your relationship, then talking it through is key. If you still talk to each other, even if it is about the most trivial occurrence in the day, then you are in a positive place.

These are key factors when communicating with your partner:

  • You feel you can bring up any subject without offence
  • Do not keep secrets from your partner
  • Be open and honest with your partner
  • You can cry in front of your partner and he/she is there for you
  • You feel that your partner is being honest with you
  • You can both vent your anger at something your partner has done – you resolve it and the anger is soon forgotten

“We can work it out”

This goes on from the last one. At some point in your relationship, you will have an event or a difference of opinion that is significant. It is how you deal with it that counts and a strong indication whether the relationship is staying on track or worth keeping.

There is no productive sense in shouting at each other but you will have to communicate. Here are some indicators that your relationship is strong and worth keeping:

  • Something bothers you in the relationship and you raise it in a conversation. Your partner listens and is receptive and makes an effort to make a change that is acceptable to you. This of course works both ways.
  • You have other commitments that he or she have an issue with. For example, your job dictates that you work long hours or you have a regular evening with your friends socially. You explain why you have these commitments and your partner accepts them.
  • You have a habit of forgetting to get things in your daily activities. You need a favour from your partner to run an errand you forgot to complete, such as something you forgot to get from the supermarket. Whatever it is, your partner finds the time without complaining to complete the task.
  • You are out in public, a function for example, and one of you has annoyed the other with some action during the event. I appreciate that if alcohol is involved that this could be difficult! But you manage to avoid the explosive confrontation and agree to discuss it when you get home. Upon returning to your abode, you talk it out and resolve it.

“I am my own person”

You can be yourself around your partner and don’t just feel you are an appendage. You have your own interests and opinions and your partner understands and accepts your position.

Here are some strong indicators that you have a good thing going with your partner:

  • Your relationship has lasted a long-distance relationship at the beginning with the goal that you wanted to build a life together. You were both faithful to each other whilst you were apart and you feel that you coming together was the right thing.
  • Your partner has a healthy interest about your relationship with your friends. He or she does not try and plant a wedge between you and your friends and is happy to discuss your friends with you. Moreover, your partner understands when you go out with your friends (within moderation!) as he or she understands that social bonding is a necessary part in human behavior. If your friend is experiencing a ‘crisis’ and you need to go and comfort them, your partner accepts this and supports your position.
  • As with all of these pointers above, it should work both ways to be successful.

“We are planning for the future”

Marriage may or may not be in the equation but you both see the same about the future. You see a future together.

This includes both of your individual interests and commitments and your plans for your relationship.

This is the great part of being in a relationship. Sharing your ideas, dreams and goals together and planning how you are going to turn them into reality. You have discussed this and you feel confident in setting your goals together.

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