“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them” Walt Disney
Before we start, this post is about achieving a realistic dream. If you want to be the best footballer whoever lived or the greatest writer of all time, that maybe impossible. You see I did use the word ‘maybe’.
Everything begins in the heart and mind. You have a dream. Your heart is set on it and it is realistic but you keep finding reasons why you cannot achieve it. Well that simply won’t do! Attaining your dream is like going on a journey but with the added element being that it is up to you how long it is going to take.
In order to achieve your dream, you will have to remove the doubt that you will not be able to accomplish it. Here are three things that doubt thrives on and you need to remove them from the process:
#1 Lack of belief
Here are some pointers for you to consider that just may alter your conditioned perspective of lack of belief.
Stop being a dream doubter. You don’t believe that you have what it takes to turn your dream into reality. Whilst you watch on tv or in the newspaper, someone who is living your dream, you do not believe that you too can do it.
Own the dream-it is yours. You have to believe that you can achieve it even if other people disagree. You are probably going to have your critics who think your dream is “unachievable” or “you don’t have what it takes”. Ignore them. Don’t let them create your world or make you think too small.
Believe it can happen to you. Sometimes the line between success and failure is very thin and mainly comes down to believing in yourself. If you don’t believe it can be done, how can others believe that you can do it? Everything that you ever achieved so far, had one small but vital ingredient. You believed that you could do it. So why do you not adopt this attitude when thinking about your dream?
#2 No faith in the course of action
This is known as not trusting the process. You believe in your dream but have lack of faith in the method of getting there
You feel that the process is too long or too hard so you never pursue it. Never let being a realist get in the way of your dream. Do not think “it’s not for me” or “it’s too hard”. Just think of the joy you will feel when you accomplish your dream.
Do not let the detractors make you doubt the process by feeding you negative thoughts. They could give you many reasons why you will fail but do not listen to them.
You may have an idea what the process is to achieve your dream. It maybe tough, it maybe a long drawn out progression or procedure but nothing that is worthwhile is intended to be easy. “Never give up”. It you stick with it, everything will fall into place and you will have the satisfaction of accomplishment and the knowledge that your convictions were justified. The result will be a new form of confidence in yourself that can result in you looking out for your next goal. We are never the finished article as there is always something else to pursue on our journey of achievement.
#3 You do not trust yourself
This means that you must stop getting into the habit of being self-critical and beating yourself up when you fail. We all fail. So, don’t be afraid of rejection-all successful people have experienced it from time to time. The secret is “Never give up”.
If you feel that whatever you do is not good enough, then you do not trust yourself. This means that you do not trust your own judgement and your dream is just that-a dream. You will not go onto the next steps of turning your dream into reality.
The classic example of this is not going for that promotion. Other people are applying for the position but you have already convinced yourself that you are not good enough. How do you know unless you apply? Yes, you maybe unsuccessful but even if you fail in getting the job, experiencing the process is invaluable. If you glean anything from the process, you have learnt something.
Also don’t be afraid to ask the person that interviewed you for the reasons you were unsuccessful and what you could do to improve. People hardly ever ask these questions following a rejection. So be original-ask! The person who interviewed you or put you forward will have the reasons why you were not successful and will be surprised that you asked. This shows your initiative and will likely make you memorable for the right reasons-and you will get valuable information to take with you on the next part of the journey to success. Remember-it is a journey.
If you would like to hear of a famous person not giving up and keeping his dream alive, click on the Bonus 1 link below to hear his view on achieving his goal and not giving up.
What to do next?
Everyone has dreams but not everyone possesses the power, knowledge and ability to make their dreams a reality. Here are some tips to adopt on the journey to achieving your dream:
- Mindset-Step into the feeling that your dream is already a reality. If you have set your mind into believing that it can be done-the transition will be natural and easier. Write your dream down on a piece of paper and hang it on the wall, fridge or wherever you can see it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Visualisation is a powerful thing.
- Research-You now know what your dream is. Now surf the net on the subject and make notes on what you need to do to make it a reality. Make notes from people who have already been successful. This is where you will realize the scope of the undertaking and what you will have to do to attain your goal. Do not feel that it is impossible, what you want was never going to be easy.
- Record-Write your goals down. Start with a monthly plan for what you want to focus on. Then create a weekly and daily snapshot of what you will work on — make sure your plan is realistic and attainable.
- Off you go-Take simple small steps on the journey and treat every step as a success.
- Share-Discuss your dream with likeminded people or friends/family. Whilst it is a good to talk, If your dream is realistic and attainable, they should support you or at least understand what you about to embark on giving you encouragement on the way.
- Awareness-Your journey will not be easy as the road will be uneven at times and there maybe barriers or blocks in the road. Be aware of this and accept it as part of the ride. You can smile later when you have accomplished your goal.
- Never give up!
Bonus 1-See our video on “Believe in your dreams. (Dreams cost nothing)”. Sylvester Stallone, one of the all-time great iconic hero actors talks here about his dreams when he started out trying to make it in Hollywood. It is inspirational. No one can take your dreams away from you if you don’t let them. Click on the image link below:
Bonus 2-Can you achieve a realistic dream or accomplish your goals? Absolutely! Have a look at ‘The Light Code’ that can help you remove feelings that hold you back in improving your life. Click on image for details: